The Ascent
Ready to ditch the dating apps, meet the love of your life and feel fucking fabulous in the process?
Without making finding him another exhausting project that consumes your entire fucking life.
The Ascent is my signature private mindset and subconscious mentorship for ambitious women who are ready to meet the love of their life, but are fucking exhausted by how much time, energy and headspace finding him seems to take.
Together, we uncover what's actually influencing your experiences in love and work on changing the things that aren't serving you.
So you can go after the relationship you want without putting the rest of your fabulous life on hold.
Because finding your person should be one of the most exciting chapters of your life. Not the reason you stop enjoying the rest of it.
You're not here because you don't already have a life you love.
You've worked fucking hard to build one.
- You've got the ambition. The goals. The friendships.
- The career or business you're building.
- The holidays you're planning and a whole list of things you're excited about.
You're self-aware as fuck, independent and more than capable of making big decisions for yourself.
And you're not questioning whether you're capable of having an incredible relationship.
Some part of you still believes that fairytale is very much there for you.
Finding love started feeling like a second job.
You're overanalysing messages from a man you've known for approximately eleven business days.
You're deleting and redownloading Hinge for the fourth time that weekend, just to see whether anyone new has swiped right.
Before dates, you're giving yourself a little pep talk about being yourself... but somehow hotter, more feminine and maybe slightly less fucking crazy.
You're trying to work out whether HE likes YOU before you've even stopped to ask whether YOU like HIM.
You make big decisions every day. And yet one unanswered text can take over your whole afternoon.
And it doesn't stay in your love life. It starts costing you:
Your mood. Your confidence. Your focus before those big girl boss meetings. Your ability to be present with the people you love.
And quite frankly, your fucking peace.
You're not willing to keep putting your life on hold while you wait for your love life to work out.
But what if you could meet the love of your life, enjoy the fuck out of dating and feel incredible about yourself... all at the same time?
What if you could be the biggest lover girl in the world without making someone else's attention the most important thing happening in yours?
What if you could actually look forward to meeting someone instead of feeling like you need to download another app, analyse another message or become a completely different woman to make it happen?
And what if your life could feel so fucking good that meeting your person would be the cherry on top? Not the thing you've been waiting for to finally feel complete.
That's exactly why I created The Ascent.
The Ascent
Because babe, we're not about to turn finding a boyfriend into another full-time fucking job.
- We're not adding another 47 dating rules to your Notes app.
- We're not teaching you how to be more mysterious, less available or strategically wait three hours before replying to a text.
- And we're certainly not spending the next few months making your entire existence revolve around whether a man decides to choose you.
We're doing something much deeper than that.
Why what you've tried hasn't been enough
Maybe you've tried taking a break from dating apps.
Maybe you've promised yourself you'll be more selective next time, stop getting attached so quickly or just relax and see what happens.
Maybe you've listened to the podcasts, saved the Instagram posts, talked it through with your friends and given yourself some pretty fucking good advice along the way.
Maybe you've even done therapy, and it's helped you understand so much about yourself and where your patterns come from.
And none of that is useless.
Because knowing what you want from a relationship, and understanding everything that's influencing how you show up in one, are two very different things.
Sometimes you're dealing with someone who genuinely isn't right for you. Sometimes your own beliefs, expectations or reactions are influencing how you're experiencing the situation. And sometimes it's a bit of both.
Being able to recognise the difference changes how you approach dating.
That's why we go deeper than standard dating advice.
Because until you understand what's actually happening for YOU, it's easy to keep trying different approaches without changing how dating feels.
And that's where The Ascent comes in.
We work on the mindset, subconscious beliefs and relationship patterns that have been influencing your experiences in love.
So you can stop approaching dating from a place of pressure, fear or needing someone to validate how fucking incredible you already are. And start approaching it as the woman who knows what she wants, knows what she brings to the table and has an amazing life to enjoy whether she's going on a first date or falling head over heels.
You get to want the big, ridiculous, romantic, once-in-a-lifetime kind of love. And feel fucking fantastic while you're finding it.
The Ascent Methodology
So how do we actually make that happen?
We work on the beliefs, patterns and behaviours that have been influencing your experiences in love, so you can start showing up differently in the moments that actually matter.
And because this is private mentorship, the work is personalised to YOU. Here's how we approach it.
Love & Life Audit
Let's get clear on where you are, where you want to be and what's standing in the way.
Before we start changing anything, we need to understand what being in YOUR Highest League actually looks like. We'll take a proper look at your love life AND the life you've already built.
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- What's working?
- What's frustrating the fuck out of you?
- What patterns keep showing up?
- And what do you actually want your next chapter to look and feel like?
Because your version of an incredible relationship, your ambitions and the things you want to experience aren't going to look exactly like anyone else's. This is where we establish what you want, what's been getting in the way and where we're going together.
Rewire
It's time to strip back the layers you've been wearing to protect yourself in love.
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Somewhere along the way, you've picked up beliefs about what you need to do, be or tolerate to feel loved, wanted and chosen. And even when you KNOW those beliefs aren't helping you, that doesn't necessarily stop you acting from them.
This is where we go beyond understanding your patterns and start working on changing them. Using NLP-informed techniques, subconscious-focused exercises and mindset coaching, we'll explore the beliefs beneath those automatic responses and develop new ways of thinking, feeling and responding.
So instead of knowing you deserve consistency but still making excuses for someone who's giving you fuck all... or knowing your needs are valid but feeling terrified to express them... you can start making decisions from a place of self-trust rather than fear of losing someone.
Because knowing you're worthy of incredible love is one thing. Actually allowing yourself to experience it is another.
Rise
This is where you start living like the woman you've been becoming.
And babe, THIS is where things get really fucking exciting. Because we're not doing all this work just so you can feel a little more confident before your next date. We're taking it into your actual life.
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- The dates. The messages. The difficult conversations.
- The moments when you REALLY like someone and feel yourself wanting to fall straight back into an old pattern.
You'll have me in your corner as you start making different decisions, communicating what you want, holding your standards and allowing yourself to be pursued, adored and loved without feeling like you have to perform for it.
And as you build that self-trust in love, you'll find it showing up in other areas of your life too.
Because we're not just talking about who you want to become. We're helping you become her.
You've spent years living as the old version of you. Time to step into who you're becoming.
I'm ready to risePicture the love life you actually want.
Picture being ridiculously in love.
With a man who's completely fucking smitten with you. Who makes his intentions clear, follows through on his words, makes you feel adored and is just as excited about building an incredible relationship as you are.
The gorgeous dates. Laughing until your stomach hurts. Incredible sex. Making memories with someone who actually wants to be part of your life.
Ambitious and rested.
Independent and open to receiving.
A hopeless romantic and completely secure in who she is.
- She's not pretending she doesn't care about love.
- She's not making herself smaller, cooler or easier to love.
- And she's certainly not exhausting herself trying to convince someone to see what a fucking catch she is.
And that changes how she shows up in the little moments that used to send her spiralling.
Like when...
A man she REALLY likes takes longer than usual to reply, and instead of spending the entire afternoon analysing what it means, she gets on with her day.
Because his response time isn't a referendum on her worth.
She's on a date with someone who gives her serious butterflies, and instead of mentally auditioning to become his dream woman, she's actually enjoying herself.
Asking questions. Flirting. Being her fabulous fucking self. And paying attention to whether SHE likes HIM.
Someone isn't giving her what she needs, and instead of negotiating with herself about whether she's asking for too much, she communicates what she wants.
And lets his response tell her what she needs to know.
A man wants to plan the date, spoil her or show her how much he cares.
And instead of feeling like she needs to repay every gesture, she actually lets herself RECEIVE.
She can start showing up differently everywhere.
Because when you start trusting yourself, communicating what you want and caring less about everyone else's approval, that doesn't have to stay confined to your love life.
You get to be adored.
You get to be ambitious.
You get to have an incredible relationship and an incredible life.
The love and the life. You don't have to pick.
I want both
The Investment
Two ways upPick your climb.
Same private coaching approach. Same personalised support. Two different ways to work together, depending on how much time you want to give yourself to make the changes and live them.
Three months is about understanding what's been influencing your love life and starting to show up differently.
Six months gives us more time to build on those changes, work through real situations as they happen and support you as your love life evolves.
Neither is a one-size-fits-all formula for finding a boyfriend. We work on what's actually happening for YOU.
value The full climb
Best for: the woman who wants time to uncover what's been influencing her love life, change how she's showing up and keep working together as she puts those changes into practice in real dating situations.
The Ascent · Six months
What's included
- Twelve private 90-minute coaching sessions over video call, every other week.
- Telegram support between sessions, Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm UK time, with replies within 24 hours.
- A private coaching portal with your session recordings and notes.
- Access to all Highest League programmes and resources (worth £800+).
- Personalised mindset exercises, coaching tools and reflections.
- A welcome gift to start your Ascent, and a leaving gift to celebrate how far you've come.
Bonuses when you pay in full
- 6 × SOS calls (one a month) for when something big happens between sessions (30 minutes, phone or video).
- 2 solo experiences: a set budget for you to book something on your own that stretches your comfort zone, like a spa day or a solo dinner.
- Priority start, subject to availability.
Reserve with £550 today, the remaining £2,750 is due before your first session.
Pay monthly · 6 × £550Best for: the woman who's ready to understand what's been getting in the way and start making meaningful changes to how she experiences dating and shows up for herself.
The Ascent · Three months
What's included
- Six private 90-minute coaching sessions over video call, every other week.
- Telegram support between sessions, Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm UK time, with replies within 24 hours.
- A private coaching portal with your session recordings and notes.
- Access to all Highest League programmes and resources (worth £800+).
- Personalised mindset exercises, coaching tools and reflections.
- A welcome gift to start your Ascent, and a leaving gift to celebrate how far you've come.
Bonuses when you pay in full
- 1 SOS call for when something big happens between sessions (30 minutes, phone or video).
- 1 solo experience: a set budget for you to book something on your own that stretches your comfort zone, like a spa day or a solo dinner.
- Priority start, subject to availability.
Reserve with £600 today, the remaining £1,200 is due before your first session.
Pay monthly · 3 × £600Once your deposit is in, I'll be in touch personally with everything you need to get started. 💋
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Why choose six months?
Six months gives you more time to practise the changes you're making, with me in your corner as your life unfolds.
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Here's something I've seen happen with my clients.
Around the three-month mark, women can find themselves dating someone new, navigating a relationship or experiencing situations that would previously have sent them into a complete fucking spiral.
I've even had women go on to meet long-term partners around this point.
And that's where having more time together can be incredibly valuable.
Because it's one thing to feel confident about dating when there's nobody on the scene. It's another when you REALLY like someone.
When you're waiting for a reply. Wondering whether something is a red flag or an old fear showing up. Learning to communicate what you need without immediately questioning whether you're asking for too much.
Months four to six give us more time to work through those moments together, while they're actually happening.
And if the changes you're making start showing up in your career, friendships, boundaries or other parts of your life? We have room to work on those too.
And in between our calls
This is what support between sessions actually looks like. A real message I sent a client on Telegram, the moment she needed it.
Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm UK time, with a reply within 24 hours.
Between sessions
When something big happens
Real women. Real experiences.
See what other women had to say.
I could spend all day telling you what it looks like to change your relationship with love. But I'd rather you hear from the women who've actually experienced this work.
Meet Tess.
Hi, I'm Tess. And I know what it's like to have your shit together everywhere except your love life.
I spent four years in a relationship that made me miserable, terrified to leave in case I ended up alone forever. As the eldest daughter of divorced parents, I'd always been the glue, and I'd carried that straight into love. Emotionally unavailable men, or men I thought I could fix.
When I finally left, I changed EVERYTHING. New house, new job, two stone lighter. But changing my circumstances hadn't changed the beliefs I was carrying into them.
Working on those beliefs changed everything. Today I'm with Chaz, being myself and enjoying being loved without worrying about losing it. And it's exactly why I created Highest League.
Welcome to your Highest League, babe.
Is The Ascent right for you?
This is private mentorship, babe. And because we're going to be working closely together, I want you to know exactly what you're signing up for.
✓ This is for you if...
- You're an ambitious woman with a life you've worked fucking hard to build, and you're ready for a love life that feels just as good.
- You're fed up with dating taking up so much time, energy and headspace, and you want to actually enjoy the process of meeting someone.
- You might already recognise some of the things that keep happening in your love life. Or you might just know you're fucking exhausted by how dating feels and can't quite put your finger on why.
- You want a man who adores you, respects you and shows up consistently, without feeling like you have to put yourself second to make that happen.
- You're willing to look beneath the surface, get curious about what might be influencing your experiences and practise doing things differently.
- And you want someone who'll support you, celebrate the absolute FUCK out of your breakthroughs and lovingly call you on your bullshit when you need it.
✕ This isn't for you if...
- You're looking for a list of dating rules to make a particular man choose you.
- You want me to help you decode every message from someone who's consistently leaving you confused about where you stand.
- You're looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear, even when the situation calls for a different conversation.
- Or you're only interested in talking about what you want, without being willing to try things differently between our sessions.
Here's what you can expect from me.
I'll help you spot the beliefs and behaviours you might not be seeing yet.
I'll ask the questions you might have been avoiding.
I'll tell you the honest truth about what I can see, even when it's not the easiest thing to hear.
I'll celebrate your wins, support you through the uncomfortable moments and help you work through real situations as they happen.
Because we're not here to make the same patterns feel more comfortable. We're here to help you start living differently.
You deserve to be understood, supported AND challenged.
And that's exactly the kind of mentorship I've created.
Got one situation taking up way too much headspace?
Wanna flirt with the idea first?The Love Life Audit · £222
Got a man, relationship, situationship or decision you cannot stop going round in fucking circles about? Bring it to me.
One private 90-minute session to untangle what's going on, uncover what you might not be seeing and create a personalised action plan for what to do next.
Plus three working days of follow-up support, so you're not left trying to figure everything out on your own afterwards.
Book the Love Life AuditThis is a separate standalone session, not a bonus included with The Ascent.
Not sure which 1:1 option is right for you?
Tell me where you're at, and I'll help you work out which option makes the most sense.
Let's talk about your optionsThe questions you're actually asking
Go on then.
I'm not sure I'm 'bad enough' to need this.
Babe, you don't have to be in crisis to want support.
You can have a brilliant career, amazing friendships, a beautiful home and a life you're proud of, and still feel frustrated by the way dating affects you.
You can want support because you're ready for something different, even if the rest of your life looks pretty fucking good.
What if I meet someone halfway through? Or I don't?
If you meet someone, AMAZING. 🥂 And our work doesn't suddenly become irrelevant. We can support you as you navigate a developing relationship, communicate your needs, manage unfamiliar feelings and build something healthy without losing yourself in the process.
If you haven't met someone yet, we continue working on the beliefs, patterns and choices that are within your control.
The mentorship supports you through the process. It isn't a guarantee of meeting a partner within a particular timeframe.
I've already done therapy. Is this different?
It can be, yes. Therapy and coaching can complement each other, but they serve different purposes depending on your needs.
Inside The Ascent, our focus is on your goals, your current dating experiences and how you can practise different ways of thinking, responding and making decisions in everyday life.
If you're unsure whether coaching is the right kind of support for you, we can talk that through before you join.
Six months feels like a lot.
I get it. It's a commitment.
And it's also an opportunity to have consistent support while you identify patterns, work on changing them and practise new responses in real situations. The six-month experience gives us more time to support you as your circumstances evolve.
If you'd prefer a shorter commitment, there's also a three-month option.
Can I pay monthly?
Absolutely. The six-month mentorship is available in six payments of £550. The three-month mentorship is available in three payments of £600.
What happens after I join?
Once you've made your payment, you'll receive your coaching agreement to sign.
From there, I'll get you set up in your private coaching portal, where you'll complete your onboarding form before we arrange our first session. You'll also receive the details you need to get started, including how to access me on Telegram.
And then, babe? We get to work. 💋
What if I change my mind?
You'll receive the full booking, cancellation and payment terms before committing. Your coaching agreement includes a 14-day cooling-off period from the day you sign it.
Babe, you get to want the whole fucking love story.
The relationship that makes you think, "Holy fuck. THIS is what I've been waiting for."
Start your AscentYour next chapter is waiting, babe. Let's make it a fucking good one. 💋